2.29.2016

How to get what you want in life




To get what you want out of life is as simple as believing in it. 

From anything to wanting a new car, owning a home, or that gorgeous Kate Spade bag you have been eyeing. 

Believe you can have it, and you are half way there. 

If you don't believe in yourself why should anyone else. 

I have always been a dreamer. A believer. A goal setter. Passion is not lacking for me. 

I am a small town girl with big city dreams. I love community, brick lined streets, and one traffic light towns. I LIVE in cowboy boots and pair them with red lipstick everyday. 

After being a stylist for almost 7 years now, a mom for 1, a wife going on 5 - I feel like I have some wisdom to share to for the next generation as they begin thinking about their career path, goals, ambitions and dreams. 


Find what you love to do & do that! 

One of my favorite quotes is "Do what you love and you'll never work a day in your life." 

That can not be more true for my industry. Now I'm not saying everyone needs to run out and sign up for cosmetology school, however if you do go to Paul Mitchell!!!! 

Everyone has their own hobbies. Everyone is passionate about something. 
These somethings will most likely change as you grow, get older, and you change. 

However if you are seeing a passion constantly reappearing in your life, that is not by chance. 

That is more than likey your God designed path. 

This can be anything from working with the homeless, helping those with addiction, writing, dancing, signing, fashion or design. For me it was doing hair. 

There is no need for anyone to limit them self to a cubical from 9-5 because that's what your college degree is going to get you as an entry position. 

Think bigger. 
Plan. 
And pray. 



Being a hairstylist I never stop attending classes and trainings. I am always researching, googling, and watching you tube videos on the latest trends. 

Whatever new "technique" you are all sharing on Facebook that has gone viral, I am trying to master. 

I love using this blog to answer questions my clients and followers have. 

I do what I do for people like you. 

God gave me the ability to make people look and feel beautiful. I love lifting their spirits. The look they get when I spin their chair around & they see their hair for the first time, it's so heart warming there are not even words to describe that feeling. 

That is why I never want to stop learning. 

True leaders in this world never stop learning. 

Knowledge kills fear.

The more you know, the more you grow, the better you become as an individual and at your craft. 

You are never too good, too experienced or too busy to learn more. 



I was taught to say YES to everything very early in my career. Which I now use in my everyday life. 

When I was a student at Paul Mitchell, they always called me a visionary. In the PM culture a visionary is someone who was always positive, going out of their way to help others & saying yes to everything. Even before they knew what they were saying yes to.

In school sometimes saying yes meant taking out the trash, sweeping up hair, doing laundry, or refilling marker bins. 

But in some cases it meant taking an all expense paid trip to Las Vegas to learn from the TOP stylist in the industry. 

I also got to participate in many fashion shows, fundraisers & giving back to the community by just saying yes. 

As most of you know I recently opened up my own Loft with Salon Lofts. This was an outcome of me saying yes & taking a leap of faith. 

I was leaving stability, and staring an adventure I didn't know much about. I just knew it was the next best step for me. 

And here I am loving every minute of it, never looking back. Wishing I had done it sooner. 



Goal setting is so important. 
I'm always daydreaming. 
Thinking. Wishing. Planning. 

I am a firm believer in journaling. 

I have had a journal obsession since I was younger. It's actually neat to go back and read them years later. 

I have found a pattern with them all. 
Months or years later everything I write ends up coming true to some extent. 

By putting things down on paper you are making them come to life. You need to get things out of your head sometimes to help make them a reality.

There are many reasons why getting out of bed feels impossible in the mornings. 

You're too cozy. 
It's warm under your mound of blankets. 
You don't wanna wake your dog or sleeping toddler. 

Your job should never be one of them. 
I understand not everyone is going to be fortunate enough to live their dreams. 

But that is only because they don't go after them. We all have the ability to have the same successful outcomes. Others just aren't willing to work harder and put in the effort.

You have to set goals that are larger than life. One quote that I have always liked is "If your dreams don't scare you they aren't big enough." 

Nothing worth having is easy, why should accomplishing your dreams be? 


Never stop setting goals. 
No matter how far you come. 

My goals have evolved and gotten bigger each year. They grow with my passion. 

I normally set goals, put them on paper, and tell my immediate circle of friends and family. 

Outside my go to group I am a pretty personal person. I don't like to blast my business all over social media, especially before it becomes reality. 

However the older I get I've realized the more you talk about it, the more you live like you are already smack dab in the middle of your dream, it becomes your day to day routine. 

You need to walk the walk as much as you talk the talk. 

My current goal is to own my own 4 chair salon/boutique. It has been on my radar for some time now. 

It has all evolved from this blog & the response and support it has gotten. 

Beauty & The Beehive is so much more now. 

I named my loft after this blog. 
And I will name my someday store front after this blog.

Once you check off one goal, make another. They should never be a destination, but a stepping stone.  


No one says it better than Taylor Swift. 

Haters gonna Hate. 

When you are happy,

When you are climbing 
the success ladder,

When you are getting hundreds of likes on Instagram,

When you are achieving your goals,

There are going to be haters. 
The devil always sends doubt when success or happiness is near. 

All of the hate I have delt with all stemmed from immaturity & jealously. Jealous girls. Immature elders. 

I have personally been dealing with it since elementary school. From mean girls. To catty cheer parents. To bitter bosses. It took me a while to form a backbone. 

Once I did...
Once I found myself...
I handled them all one of two ways...

1. Kindness. 

I know I know how cliche. Kill them with kindness they say. But whoever "they" are, THEY ARE RIGHT. 

There is nothing your haters are gonna hate more than you brushing it off. And smiling in their face. Paying them a compliment. Catch them off guard. They probably won't even know what to do or say in response to you. 

2. Ignore Them. 

Or as T Swift says "shake it off". When people say negative things, do negative things, they are doing it to get a rise out of you. Let's not give them the satisfaction of that outcome. Blow it off. Act like it never happened. Delete it. Block them. Shake it offffffff. 

I know there are circumstances that require a reaction, but when in doubt bite your tongue. 

Negative people don't deserve to take up space in your positive life. 




This quote is so powerful. 
Go ahead and read it again. 

To piggy back off the last paragraph you can not let others have power over you or your destiny. 

You & God should be the ones in charge of it. 



In closing, I want you leave you with one last quote: 

"FAKE IT TIL' YOU MAKE IT". 
& then make it big !!!!

Xoxo Molly. 

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{ All photo credit goes to Pinterest for some of my favorite quotes and inspiration. }

1.06.2016

The Best Mommy Advice No One Gave Me






As we creep up on my daughters first birthday and I've been a parent for all of 11 months now I can't help but stop and look back at my life this time last year.

The holiday hustle had just settled down & we were planning my shower for the first weekend in February thinking I would be having a mid-March baby.

The crib was put together, the diaper bag was bought, the books had been read.
I thought I was ready. I felt prepared. After all I had been married 3 & half years and we had been planning for her arrival, she was no surprise to us.

But no one can prepare you for the way your life changes.
No one can prepare you for the lack of sleep. (Trust me that's the first thing everyone warns you about, but you can't fully grasp it until your a walking #mombie)

No one can prepare you for labor. Not even if this is your second and you have been through it once. Every labor is different.

No one can prepare you for what you body goes through and how it will never be the same again.

No one can prepare you for the look on your spouse's face when he sees his little girl for the first time, falls in love, and then looks at you with these puppy dog eyes & without even uttering a word I know he said "thank you".. Thank you for the best thing that's ever going to happen to us.

& man was he right.

All the planning, prepping, and anticipating is MORE than worth it.

However the best advice I can new mothers, that no one ever gave me is the following:

ASK FOR HELP!

Don't hesitate! When someone lends a helping hand take it! Especially in those first weeks after, let someone make a meal for you, clean your house, sit with the baby so you can take a shower! Don't feel bad. They are not lying when they say "IT TAKES A VILLAGE".

Heck, 11 months in and I go out of my way to ask for help. I have been blessed with a handful of amazing babysitters that literally fight over days to watch Hadley. But I take advantage of it, as well as my husband.
Even if he is home, but needs to work on his truck or the house we will have one of the girls come over for a couple hours to hang with Haddy while he can get stuff done if I'm at work.

I do the same! Just yesterday I had both of them here, so I did laundry, sorted things out for cheer, worked on stuff for the salon & returned emails. Granted they came over to hang with both of us and we really just wanted to veg out on snacks and recap The Bachelor... but I saw an opportunity where I had extra helpings hands and used my time wisely.

Because lets be honest not much is getting done with a crawling, basically walking 10 & 1/2 month old sassy, Taylor Swift dancing little girl.

SCHEDULE DATE NIGHTS <3

When I was pregnant someone gave me amazing advice that has stuck with my and I really try to enforce it. "Marriage came before motherhood. To be a great mother you must be a great wife."

The hubby and I have started monthly overnights at grandma's so we can have date nights. Though they haven't really consisted of big nights out we usually just order Chinese and stay in.

 However they are much needed. Its nice to take a break from the constant role of being parents & take time for your spouse to touch base. 

We just did our first one last month and we both looked at each other the next day like "why didn't we try this sooner?" haha. As much as we missed her, and mostly talked only of her, it was nice to sleep soundly through the night!!

So now we have a first Saturday of every month schedule in place with my parents to allow us the time we need to make our marriage a priority. 

Prep

Every night before bed I do a walk thru and put the house back together, I stock the diaper bag if i know we are going somewhere the next day.

 I try to lay out her clothes before bath time so that there is less fighting me afterwards while trying to get her dressed. I put all her toys back in their places so she will know where to find them in the morning.

It all takes me about 10-15 minutes but it saves hours the next day!!! And lots of headaches! 

It allows me to start the next day in a positive mood not dreading the mess! 

I'm no expert but this last year has taught me so much & being a mom is as hard and rewarding as everyone says it is! 

So ask for help, put time aside for your significant other & try to set your self up for success as often as possible! 

Xoxo- Molly. 

(Photo credit- Justine Linn Photography.)